One customer wrote: “Help me! I think I finally solved my weight loss problem, but sugar is killing me. I was having a bad day. I won’t even tell you what I ate today because it was so unbelievable. All I will say is that 90% of my food today consists of sugar, and I need some help getting over my cravings hey. I’m no doubt a sugar junkie, and if I can get through this, I’ll reach my goal.”
If you see a little of yourself in this message, you are not alone. Many people describe themselves as sugar addicts. They believe that if only for that one thing, they can achieve their weight loss goals. If you believe there is only one thing standing in the way of your weight loss, consider this, What if that thing (sugar addiction) you went to get rid of immediately? Do you believe, “If I can get through this, I’ll reach my goal,” or is that an easy excuse to stay stuck?
If I told you I could show you a way to stop sugar cravings, would you want me to show you how?
Think about that for a moment. Close your eyes and think clearly. You used to say that if you didn’t crave sugar, you would lose weight but is that true for you? Ask yourself the following questions:
Would you eat differently, and if so, how?
Would you act differently, and if so, how?
What else will change, and what will stay the same?
What will you lose?
What will you achieve?
Until you know what you want, know you can get it, and know what will change (how your life could be different). You won’t be able to spot any obstacles which you must consider first. For example, you might want to stop eating anything after 7 pm, but your husband hasn’t come home from work until 8 pm, and he wants you to have dinner with him. That is an obstacle.
If you enjoying watching your favorite TV shows with snacks all the time, breaking the habit is another obstacle.
If you don’t seek to overcome your obstacles, perhaps through discussion and compromise with your husband or willpower to break your daily snack habit, there is bound to be a problem. Just say you will not do something anymore. Instead, identify what might be holding you back from achieving your goals, find ways to address them, and you’re more likely to achieve those goals once and for all.
The statement “if one thing is taking care of, everything else will fall into place” is what gets people into trouble. They want a fairy godmother to make things better especially weight loss. The belief that a single habit such as “eating sugar is my problem” sets you up for failure, especially if you enjoy eating sugary foods.
Tackling your cravings isn’t an all-or-nothing proposition. You have to leave room for occasional deviations. It’s not the side trips that sometimes cause weight trouble, but that is the way we usually go.
In NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), a good starting point is an exercise called establishing a well-formed outcome. “Well-conceived” means that it meets all the criteria of a well-thought-out result.
How to Create Well-Formed Results & Get What You Want
Here are the steps to produce a well-formed result:
1) State very clearly what you want (not what you don’t want). “I want to weigh 105 pounds.”
2) Determine if you can achieve it (do you believe it is possible?).
3) What resources do you have and what do you need (time, money, equipment, clothes, equipment, training, whatever).
4) Check to see if anyone else is involved and any potential obstacles that may arise with others. Think of everyone involved in your daily life.
5) Visualize yourself “as if” you have achieved what you want and see if that picture fits. Do you like what you see?
6) Create an action plan together to achieve your results.
While it may seem like a lot of effort to decide what you want, taking these steps in the first place will help you uncover potential obstacles that have previously prevented you from moving forward before, for example, if you decide you want to join a gym and start working out every day but you forget you don’t even own a vehicle and you drop out job, that plan might not work out right now. If you’ve joined a gym, you won’t go in the end, and then you think you’ve failed, but it’s the plan that failed, not you. You didn’t think it through.
In this case, a better plan might be to do the exercises at home or within walking distance (or simply walking for an exercise for now). Then when you have transportation, you can rethink your plans and maybe join a gym later.
It’s better to consider what you want from all angles, work together to create a plan that you know can and will always work. Then when you are sure of what you want, you’ll also know that you can make it happen. And start by taking that first step toward making it happen.
“Achieving Good Results” is part of the 8-week End of Emotional Eating Workshop. You can get more information about the NLP process by searching “NLP Well Formed Outcome” in the Google search engine.
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